I Used to Toil Over Making Decisions🤷

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I used to toil over making decisions.

A friend would ask me over for dinner or a night out on the town, and I’d feel torn. My body would want to stay cozy at home, but my mind would crave stimulation, socialization, and adventure. 

Ugh!! I don’t know what to do!! 

Sometimes, the opposite would be true: my body would be activated and ready to roll but my mind would be overworked, burned out, and fed up.  

Should I stay or should I go? 

It wasn’t just about evening plans, either. I would often wrestle with more significant decisions, too, like whether to keep putting effort into a sinking relationship, continue working for a cranky but well-paying client, invest time and money into professional development, book another trip to a far-off land, or settle down, get hitched, and start a family. 

It was—and sometimes still is—hard to know which decision would make my future self the happiest. But I now know that that’s limited thinking. 

The idea that I have only one “right” path to happiness is a fallacy. As I learn to trust my power as a Joy Alchemist, I find comfort in knowing that whatever path I choose will lead me to happiness.

Either the decision is fantastic and delivers magical, synchronistic surprises I never knew possible, or it is a total bummer yet clarifies what I truly desire, thus giving me a new goal to work towards.

Every decision is a win-win when you learn to alchemize joy from disappointment.


TRY IT OUT —> Toiling over a decision? Give mulling a rest and do something joy-activating instead. Clarity rarely comes from stewing in your thoughts; it comes when you’re in the present moment, like hiking in nature, meditating, or moving your body. Once clarity strikes, trust that you'll be able to overcome any unexpected obstacles resulting from the decision.

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