I Used to Toil Over Making Decisions🤷
I used to toil over making decisions.
A friend would ask me over for dinner or a night out on the town, and I’d feel torn. My body would want to stay cozy at home, but my mind would crave stimulation, socialization, and adventure.
Ugh!! I don’t know what to do!!
Sometimes, the opposite would be true: my body would be activated and ready to roll but my mind would be overworked, burned out, and fed up.
Should I stay or should I go?
It wasn’t just about evening plans, either. I would often wrestle with more significant decisions, too, like whether to keep putting effort into a sinking relationship, continue working for a cranky but well-paying client, invest time and money into professional development, book another trip to a far-off land, or settle down, get hitched, and start a family.
It was—and sometimes still is—hard to know which decision would make my future self the happiest. But I now know that that’s limited thinking.
The idea that I have only one “right” path to happiness is a fallacy. As I learn to trust my power as a Joy Alchemist, I find comfort in knowing that whatever path I choose will lead me to happiness.
Either the decision is fantastic and delivers magical, synchronistic surprises I never knew possible, or it is a total bummer yet clarifies what I truly desire, thus giving me a new goal to work towards.
Every decision is a win-win when you learn to alchemize joy from disappointment.